RELATIONSHIP + LIFE CHALLENGES

Life can be tough:

At school:

  • Bullying

  • Peer pressure

  • Isolation

  • Acting out and aggressive behavior

  • Sexual harassment

  • Poor academic performance

  • Skipping school

 

At home:

  • Poor family communication

  • Emotional abuse

  • Physical and/or sexual abuse

  • Drug/alcohol abuse

 

At the workplace:

  • Relationships with co-workers

  • Ineffective communication

  • Mean-spiritedness

  • Bullying and shaming behaviors

  • Uncooperative and negative atmosphere

  • Lack of connection and inability to collaborate

Why is Emotional Intelligence (EQ) the solution?

Emotions are the essence of the human experience.  We feel wonder, joy, passion, and purpose; we also feel fear, disgust, anger, and frustration.  The way we react to our feelings can help us create a more peaceful and prosperous world, or it can move us to destroy each other and the world we share.  The key need therefore, is to teach children, teens and adults emotional intelligence.

 

What is Emotional Intelligence (EQ)?

Emotional Intelligence is learning to understand our own and others emotions, behavior patterns, and needs, and how to effectively navigate those emotions to create positive interactions and relationships with ourselves and others. Simply put, it is being smart with our emotions - learning how to control our emotions rather than letting our emotions control us. 

What is Social and Emotional Learning (SEL)?

SEL is the process through which children and adults develop fundamental social and emotional skills to handle themselves, their relationships and their tasks effectively and ethically. (CASEL) http://www.casel.org/

 

The Social and Emotional Learning competencies as defined by the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL)

  • Self-awareness—accurately assessing one’s feelings, interests, values, and strengths; maintaining a well-grounded sense of self-confidence.

  • Self-management—regulating one’s emotions to handle stress, control impulses, and persevere in overcoming obstacles; setting and monitoring progress toward personal and academic goals; expressing emotions appropriately

  • Social awareness—being able to take the perspective of and empathize with others; recognizing and appreciating individual and group similarities and differences; recognizing and using family, school, and community resources

  • Relationship skills—establishing and maintaining healthy and rewarding relationships based on cooperation; resisting inappropriate social pressure; preventing, managing, and resolving interpersonal conflict; seeking help when needed

  • Responsible decision-making—making decisions based on consideration of ethical standards, safety concerns, appropriate social norms, respect for others, and likely consequences of various actions; applying decision-making skills to academic and social situations; contributing to the well-being of one’s school and community.

 

To accomplish these competencies, Casa Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) Trainers teach:

 

Understanding emotions

  • Recognize, understand, communicate and managing feelings

  • Sharing feelings

  • Feelings are ok

  • Comfortable and uncomfortable feelings

  • Points of view: perspective and empathy

  • Triggers, Feelings and behaviors

Managing feelings

  • Ok and not ok behaviors

  • Self control and calming down

  • Making choices

  • Recognize and redirecting patterns of behavior

  • Setting  goals and moving  toward them

  • Increase respectful communication, thinking and behaviors

  • Developing Refusal skills

  • Handling rejection and learn Coping skills

 

Defining responsibility

  • Responsibility and consequences

  • Setting goals/effort /persistence

  • Positivity vs. negativity

  • Optimism

So, the positively powerful result of living with Emotional Intelligence is:

— Greater self-esteem

— Higher motivation, creativity, achievement

— Less violence

— More accountability

— Strong classroom and school communities

 

And then...

 

How to have positive relationships

  • Making friends

  • Handling bullying/teasing

  • Accidents vs. intentions

  • Manners/kindness/golden rule

  • “I” messages

  • Nonverbal communication

  • Understanding and celebrating differences

  • Making up/apologies

  • Rejection/belonging

How to problem solve

  • Identifying a problem

  • Generating solutions

  • Holding problem solving sessions with family and friends

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